Music

“Behind every favorite song is an untold story.”

Music can calm the soul, heal the pain within your heart, encourage you to live your dreams, teach you to fly and give you hope.

Music touches each of us differently. Each of us express our love for music in different ways also. It touches a place within us that some keep locked away, it opens us up to others and things we may never have even hoped for. 

They have now started studies on the affect music has on pain. It has been proven that music can actually stop pain. Different music for different people and pain. It helps with depression and anxiety and can make you a generally happier person. 

So go find some good music and let your heart and soul heal from the pains of the world! Let your heart delight in the melody and let your mind get lost in the lyrics!

Let music be an outlet for you and all those around you.

Happiness

Wake up everyday being thankful to be alive! We only get this one life. Don’t waste it being angry or unhappy. You can better your life by just deciding that no matter what life throws at you, you can still be happy! 

Find something to be happy about today!

Thankfulness

Today on this 2016 Thanksgiving I am thankful for all the wonderful people in my life. Those who have made me who I am. Those who have stuck by me and helped me through all the hard times.

I have wonderful people in my life and I’m sure you all do also. Sometimes those that support us and make us the best we can be are not always who you would expect. Everybody’s support system looks different. It doesn’t matter if they are family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or someone you just met, everybody helps us along our journey and is in your life for a reason.

Even If you are sitting there thinking you have no one or that you’ve burned to many bridges to have support from anyone you are wrong. God places guardian angels all around us. We just have to look past ourselves to see them. So today I challenge you to really think about who you have in your life that makes it better. Think of maybe the lady you walk past everyday on your way to work that smiles and gives you that lift you need to get through your day. Or maybe it’s the waitress at the cafe who always  gives you an extra refill at no charge. Or maybe it’s the guy in the next cubical who listens to your struggles with no judgements. Whoever they are they help shape you.

Everybody has times when they feel like they are lost and have nobody that truly cares about them, but I promise you can always find someone that cares if you get past your hurt feelings, judgements, prejudice, or being offended you can see there are people all around that want to help and be your friend if you will allow them. 

Take this opportunity to really find what and who you’re grateful for.

Refinement 

Your mistake should not define you but refine you. 

We are made up of so many parts and pieces. Our personalities, happiness, compassion, kindness, feelings, and so forth are not a result of one action or experience. They change as we experience new things or struggle through something hard. That’s how we grow and become better human beings!

“You are wiser, stronger and smarter because you made mistakes in your life.” (Taylor Swift)

I have made so many mistakes and messed up so many times in my life that there is no way I could count them. But those mistakes and trials have made me a better person. They have given me understanding and patience with others as they struggle through life. I am more compassionate and loving towards those that others look at and shake their heads and walk away.

Everyone changes! There’s the saying that a tiger can’t change their stripes. Well maybe not, but a human is constantly changing, physically, mentally and emotionally. If we didn’t change over the years we wouldn’t learn, we couldn’t progress into someone better.

This is what we should all strive for. To be better people. More kind, forgiving, loving, wiser, happier. These are all things we should be striving towards. Yes people get stuck in a rut, but they do not have to stay there. We choose to change, we make the decision that we want something better for us and those around us and then we go get it. And in the process we change. 

Going through a trial in your life, whatever it may be, will help you find something that is buried deep inside you. Trials help us discover who we really are. Our strengths and weaknesses, our passions, our talents, and just being able to see the good on others. These are a few of the things that we discover as we face trials.  
In the end we become better people because we didn’t give up and made it through! As we go through these struggles we can lean on friends, family, God, strangers even, to help us make it through. Showing vulnerability does not make us weak it makes us human. We can not do it on our own. That’s why we have such amazing people around us, and a loving Heavenly Father, we need all the help we can get. When we finally reach the end of the trial we can look back and say it wasn’t so bad because we had a great support system.

That doesn’t mean the trials are over though. There will be others. Trials continue to come as we evolve into truly loving human beings and spread that love to those around us. 

We will never be perfect and that is ok! But through our trials we can be refined into the best us we can be.

Loving Yourself

Loving yourself seems like an easy enough statement. But in this crazy world we live in it is probably the hardest thing to actually do.

All around us every single day there are pictures, articles, books, videos, etc. telling us what and how we need to change to become what the world sees as perfect. We are bombarded by constant criticism! We’re not skinny enough, smart enough, are skin isn’t perfect, we aren’t doing enough with our lives, We don’t have enough money or the right clothes, the list goes on and on.

But what if we just loved ourselves for who we are? What if we all supported each other and our differences? What if we realizes that being different is what makes each of us so special and we loved each other for those differences?We have to love ourselves before we can love others. We have all heard this statement before. Is it true? I don’t think so. I unconditionally love my husband and children! But I really fight loving myself. My husband is constantly telling me that I’m to hard on myself and I need to give me a break! 


I am constantly striving for perfection, which we all should be doing, but we can’t get down on ourselves when we make mistakes or we come up short. We are all human and we are going to make mistakes! That’s why we are here! We need to learn to love ourselves just the way we are. 

You can’t start into a relationship with someone thinking about all the ways you want to change them. That never works out! So you have to love that person just the way they are. You have to also have this same attitude when it comes to loving yourself. You shouldn’t have to conform to the worlds view of what’s perfect. Nobody is perfect! 

We want to improve everyday. This is how we grow. But we need to make sure we are doing it in a healthy way. You need to encourage yourself to be better tomorrow than you were today. Don’t get down on yourself for falling short. Just look at the day and see what went wrong and fix it for tomorrow.

Be you! Strive to become the perfect you! 

You are beautiful, courageous, caring, wonderful, strong and good. We can always be better, but don’t let this stop you from living yourself the way you are now!

Pain

There are many different kinds of pain, emotional, physical, spiritual, etc. But what is pain?

Pain is a signal that is sent to our brains went we are hurt. Pain tells the body when it’s done to much. Pain tell the brain when we are emotionally drained.

How do we get rid of pain. There’s always the go to answer of time heals all wounds. But sometimes pain stops us in our tracks and we can’t wait for time to heal. We have to live! We have to take action onto our own hands.

  
First we have to get to the bottom of the pain. The reason we are having this pain. The root of the pain will tell us a lot.

Then we have to start our own healing process. Depending on the type of pain will determine the avenues you have to take to heal. For some it’s physical therapy, others maybe some counseling, maybe some time alone to think through your pain. The point is you have to find what works for you. 

There is no cure all for all people. We did not come prepackaged in a box and we are not all the same. What works for one person may not work for the next. And so as I’ve learned you have to research, research, research! And then you have to try things and see if they fit your life and are helping your pain.

We have to know pain to know happiness, joy, goodness and what it’s like to live pain free. But you do not have to live in your pain.

If you have been to a doctor and they aren’t finding the cause of your pain then get a second opinion! You are your own advocate. You do not have to continue to suffer!

I have found traditional medicine wasn’t the right thing for my pain. After many years of physical pain that started affecting me emotionally I started seeing a naturalist and have never been more pain free. But that may not work for you so find what will. 

This is not easy to do the research when you are in pain. Find a support group. Whether it’s family, friends, internet based, religious groups or whomever you find that is willing to help and care about you. 

On those days when the pain is too much and you feel like it has enclosed you in a coffin of hurt and anger and suffering, you will have to fight with everything you have left to get out! Find those triggers that give you strength and write them down. Use them daily to strengthen you even more for when a bad day comes along. Also find the triggers that weaken you so you can stay away from them as much as possible.

Pain is a part of life, but it does not have to be your life!

You are more than just your pain!

You are a beautiful, strong, graceful, witty, kind, caring, handsome, selfless, giving, addition to this world. You are needed and wanted just the way you are!

  

   
  

You can do it!

There is a Chinese proverb that says;

The person that says it can not be done, should not interrupt the person doing it.

There is so much negativity in this world constantly telling you that you can’t do this or that, that it can be easy to let that negativity become your reality. 

But the truth is, you can do it! You can do anything you set your mind to. It won’t come easily. Nothing that is ever really worth it comes easily. 

Let the world see what you can do! Show those negative people what a little positivity can do. And then spread that positivity to the world and make the world a better place. 

The world is a better place just for your presence in it. Spread love, happiness, kindness, laughter, and positive thoughts!