Make the World Better!

All around us, everywhere we go, everywhere we look, everywhere we read there is hate. We have become so hateful of those around us it is hard to find the happiness and good in the world. The news reports anything and everything negative. As you scroll through your social media how many posts are negative versus positive? As you look at popular news feeds does anything bring happiness to you soul?

We have become so used to the negative that we feed off of it and create more negativity. I notice as one negative thing is posted people respond (whether the agree or disagree) with more negativity. And lots of times when a positive thing is posted or on a news feed negative remarks are made about it also. There is no winning in the negativity war we are engaged in. We are building a world of hate and intolerance towards people we do not know. It is so easy to make a rude comment to someone on social media that you do not know or ever plan to meet.

Why not be the person who lifts others up? Why not be the person who gives comments of encouragement and support? Why not be the one to start a movement of love and positivity? It has to start with someone, so why not you? We each have good inside of us. If we start today to build that instead of building the negativity the world would be a much better place.

There are numerous articles and studies that have proven we are wiring our brains for negativity. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/complaining-rewires-brain-negativity-how-to-stop/. This is only one example.

This negativity  becomes who we are unless we stop it now. We can do better! We can be better! We are better than what we have become! Start each morning with something positive and share something positive with someone. Help others, don’t judge, lift and inspire, give a smile, show you care. “Be The Good!”

 

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Moving Forward

Sometimes we hang on to things that do us no good. We hold onto something, or someone we think can offer us something, or we think we can offer something to them, make their life better. We hold on so tight letting other things and people fall by the wayside because we are so focused on this one thing or person that we get bogged down in the mud. Almost to the point where we could be drowning and not even realize it.

When in reality if we let go we can find the kind of freedom we always dreamed of. We can fell lighter more alive even. We can grow and become more than what we ever thought possible without this weight holding us down or telling us we can’t.

Whether you are holding onto a job, a memory, a person, an idea, or an item, if you cannot move forward, or if does not make you happy, it may be time to let it go. You have to do what is right for you. No one else has walked in your shoes or sees whats in your heart. You have to take the time to look inside yourself and see if you need something different.

My hope is that each person who reads this can be better tomorrow than they were today. Keep striving and hoping and becoming the best you. Soul searching can make you realize you need to make some changes in your life, but it can also make you realize the many good things you already have.

Even when you have to let go, something so beautiful can grow from it. Because even as the sun sets on a chapter in your life you can always find the light. You only have to be willing to have some faith.

I watched you grow into something so beautiful, I loved you like you were my own.

I was often reminded to me you did not belong, I ignored the many warning signs.

I thought you needed my guidance and direction, but with another you have flown.

I am grateful I held you for a short time, Oh how much you have touched my heart,

For now I  live with only my memories, Hopefully time can will heal my wounds.

I am happy that you have repaired yourself, I am only sad to do it we had to part.

Lots of Love,

What We Do With Today, Really Matters!

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Each person has an allotted amount of days in their lives. This amount can be adjusted by how we choose to live and take care of our bodies. But if we only have so many days shouldn’t we be living each one to the fullest? With the number of suicides going up and the average life span going down, over the last few years, each day counts!

How often do we say that can wait for tomorrow? Or I’ll get to it later when I’m not so busy? I will take that trip next year when I have saved up more money? I’ll call them another day when I have more time? We have each said these lines or something similar over time. In our minds our days are endless, but in reality the time ticks by so quickly we can get lost in the hustle and bustle of life, without ever really living.

Life should be an adventure! “The spirit of adventure motivates us to set goals, push ourselves, thrive in the face of hardship, and achieve epic feats.” Richard Branson. “If you’re not having fun then what’s the point?” We should be living each day with joy and happiness and adventure. We live such hectic lives we need to have time when we can let loose and have an adventure. Do something that brings us peace and joy, but also gets us out of our routine.

A great way to start introducing adventure into our daily lives is to start with weekend adventures. Take a road trip, have a night out, go hiking, have a day at the lake, something different from your daily routine, do something that scares you. My husband is always telling my kids they need to try things that scare them (within reason). For example if you are afraid of heights start small by seeing how high you can climb before your fear stops you. Try something new each day to push that fear aside. Work on overcoming that it so that fear won’t hold you back from accomplishing your dreams.

The ultimate goal is to be able to do something adventurous each day. Whether you start your day with something that gets you up and motivated or by ending your day with a little excitement. Push yourself to be the best you, and have some fun in the process!

Touching People’s Life’s 

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou

How can we touch people's lives in a positive way instead of negative? How can we be that person who helps others up instead of pushing them down?

One thing we need to do is to find happiness in others success. We need to look outside our wants and needs and give to others. We need to think of others feelings. We need to be a better us.

As we go about each day of we could do one small or big thing to help someone else we could touch there life positively. Maybe complimenting someone on their hair or clothing, or a project they did a good job on.

Listening is another thing that lets others know you care. But you really have to listen not just space off in your own thoughts. Care about what they are saying and respond appropriately. Sometimes people need to get something's of their chest. It helps to have someone they can go to that really cares about them.

Spending time with someone. Time is often a hot commodity. We are often running from here to there and it can mean a lot to someone when you take time out of your day for them. Even if you only have a short amount of time the gesture can mean the world.

Give more of yourself. We often hold back in fear of getting hurt. If we let someone really know who we are this can uplift them. It gives them confidence that someone trusts and cares for them.

Learn to care for others more than yourself. We as humans can be extremely selfish at times but we also can be completely selfless. If we can find more time for selflessness we will receive just as those we are serving receive.

Don't judge! When we can love someone just as they are without judgement we can make a huge difference in someone's life.

We should always keep our standards high but that doesn't mean we don't treat everyone with respect and kindness. Every person has a place and reason to be here on this earth. We should always help those around us feel at home and peaceful whenever they are around us.

We can each strive everyday to be better and leave a positive impression on those around us.

Rest and Relaxation

Summer is a time for vacations, family, sun and fun. I’ve noticed as coworkers have taken time off work for various reasons over the last month that they tend to come back more exhausted then when they left. The vacation seems to take more out of us then actual work. Why is this?

Is it because we only get so much time (paid) off work that we feel we have to cram everything into each vacation? Is it that there are so many fun and different things to do we can’t choose? Or is it that we see everyone else on social media doing all these things and we have to keep up?Whatever the reason isn’t there a way to come back to work rested?

I find it difficult to relax. I start thinking of all the things that need to get done. I think that I’m being lazy. I think if I relaxing and others are working it isn’t fair. I have been trying to work on this way of thinking. Because in the end this is why so many people are burned out and exhausted all the time.

We have trained our selves to think we need to be constantly on the move. Never letting anything happen without us there. But as we do this are we really enjoying our time off? Or are we so exhausted we aren’t 100% there. We are still thinking of work, the next project, the next activity or a million other things we have running through our mind. 

How can we truly get rest and relaxation? We have to be present in each thing we are doing. Not just physically there but mentally also. We need to take care of ourselves. We have to make our mental and physical health a priority! 

So as you are planning the rest of your summer remember it’s ok to not hit every tourist attraction across the country in one trip. Take time throughout the year for small vacations or even a weekend away. But get away! Put down the phone and the social media and really look at the beauty that’s around you. Whether that’s nature, family, love, animals and etc.. really look at it with your eyes not through the screen of your phone. 


Take a day to just sit by the pool or read a book. (Don’t tell yourself that you need to pack everything you own to go to the pool for two hours.) Make your life a little more simple. Remember those things you really enjoy and do those things. Make your vacation more relaxing instead of running. Because that’s why you took the vacation in the first place was because you needed to get away. Make a list of priorities and do those things first. 

Love yourself and take care of your mind and body, it’s the only one you will get.

Give it Away

As a society we are in the business of collecting. Collecting money, cars, houses, jewelry, clothes, “toys”, antiques, jobs, things.

Ancient Egyptians believed they could take these collections with them into the next life. Therefore they were buried with their worldly treasures. As they have uncovered these ancient tombs of very wealthy and prestigious Egyptians, all their treasures remain in the tomb with their remains. So I will presume they were unable to take it with them.

Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t collect things that we enjoy and make us happy. We all need things. Money provides us with a roof over our heads, food on our tables and clothes on our backs, but what about those who do not have these luxuries? 

In our fast paced world how often do we stop to think of those less fortunate than us? How often do we donate food to the food bank? Or clothing and blankets to the shelter? What about thinking of those with unhealthy drinking water in third world countries? 

There is so much need in our world for basic supplies that we often take for granted. 

I admit I do not give enough of my time and  property. I want to do better. Because as we work crazy hours and feel the need to have better and more “things”, there are those out there that do not have that option.

I challenge each of you to give a little more of yourselves today then you did yesterday. Think of others more often throughout the day. Give someone a little extra time if that is all you have to offer. Take a less fortunate family a dinner. It doesn’t have to be a solution for homelessness (but if you have a solution that would be awesome!) a small step in the right direction can make a huge difference.


We can’t take our “things” with us so share them with others! You will feel the difference you make!

Positivity

As I take a minute and look around I notice how much hate and negativity surround us. I wonder what happened to showing respect and kindness? On any social media site you will witness many kinds of disrespect, anger, hate and negativity. I’ve even noticed it when someone is posting something positive, someone will comment with a negative.

We have become a generation that hides behind our phones and computer screens with unkindness. But it isn’t only on social media. I see it driving down the road as people give others a lone finger gesture, or as people yell at each other for cutting them off. And the most devastating road rage that ends in violence all because someone felt the other person offended them with their driving.

It doesn’t stop there as we see shootings on the news or that friends have helped another commit suicide. As quarrels erupt within neighborhoods over property lines or noice ordinances or any other matter of things.

What has happened to us as human beings that we show anger and violence before love and kindness? Instead of patience we show impatience, instead of understanding we show jealousy. Where did respect for human life go?

The only way we can make the world a better and safer place is to start with ourselves. Our attitudes are the start to a magnificent change that could take place. When we quit being the victims and start taking responsibility for our actions we will start to change the world. 

With each kind gesture we make we will be bettering someone else’s life. No matter how small, a positive comment or action can set the ball rolling to a better world. When you want to react with a negative action make a conscious effort to stop it and reroute to kindness. Be happy for peoples success instead of angry because you haven’t progressed as far as you would like. Work on getting to where you want to go while helping others reach their goals also.

Showing respect for people and the world we live in is everyone’s responsibility. Cleaning up our neighborhoods and going a little green will help generations to come. Using less water, using your own reusable bag at the store, walking instead of driving, picking up a piece of trash on the beach are all small things that can make a huge difference.

So show kindness. Show love. Show that you care for others and not just your own success. Make the world better one positive action at a time. Slow down for a moment and take a deap breath and remember that we are all going through something and we could be the help someone else has been praying for.